Confession: I am a nice person. I'm the one that will check on people - and be concerned if someone is acting off. Or donate money to make sure the potluck I can't attend has everything it needs. This has had an effect on my career: I was less willing to point out 'in public' errors in the code or things that just felt off to me while testing. And this stopped me from being the best tester I could be. Trying to be kind to someone that was having a rough patch, or simply not wanting to expose them to a potential attack was both me trying to get things correct, but care for them. I've decided to embrace this aspect of myself, and shift my focus. Being 'nice' to the product, or company must include being the voice for both end users and the team. Finding things that will be difficult for them, confusing, or flat-out wrong is a major part of my job. And this was also one reason I don't 'delight', at first, when something doesn't work as expected:
The short-post ramblings of a 'sandwich generation' person who is trying to make a second career around her child and parent (and is financially dependent on them). The posts will be short: simply due to time constraints.